Actions speak louder than words.
Love is an action word. And lust is something that people often get confused with. Please learn the difference between love and lust. Yes, the person may like you. But often times love & lust gets confused because of a lack of maturity. And sometimes people often say they love you because they know that it's such a powerful & strong word. They say it to manipulate you & to pull at your heart strings. When in all actuality they really only just want to use you for sex.
A relationship isn't a one-way street. It's not a good relationship if you're the only one who is giving & the other person is always taking. A healthy relationship takes a serious commitment that is meant to be between two people who are truly moving towards a future together, ultimately moving towards marriage. Usually when a person wants to build a future with you and aren't just using you for sex, they tend to flaunt you. They're not ashamed to be seen with you. They build you up & complement you. They have your best interest at heart & they respect you.
Ask yourself this, am I truly happy with this person? Can I be around this person if I'm not drinking or if we're not having sex, do I really want to do anything else with them? Can we talk about life in general, not only about things that are sexual in nature? Also remember nobody is perfect, so a relationship isn't going to be perfect. They're going to be good days & they're going to be bad. But the good is supposed to outweigh the bad. Is the other person really someone that you can lean on, a shoulder to cry on when life gets tough?
Taking a break.
Dating is also known as seeing somebody. If you are seeing someone, things may have moved faster than you expected. You truly need to decide if you can really see yourself in a serious committed relationship with the other person, before it gets too late. People don't like feeling you're stringing them a long, it makes them feel like you're using them. And the other person may break up with you to avoid being hurt. Please be honest with the other person if that you need some time apart to see if you can truly live without the other person, especially if things are moving fast. Sometimes, almost losing someone teaches the other person what they truly got. And absence is said to make a heart grow fonder. So only time will tell.
Sometimes, dating involves seeing a couple of people. If that is the case, please be honest with the other people. Dishonesty will cause someone not to trust you and once the trust is gone, so is the respect. If you were honest with the other people about you also dating someone else, then you may need a break to try to figure things out, like who you can live with or without. Especially, if you see yourself being with one in particular, but you truly don't know. You chose to date a couple of people & that can be very complicated. One person is usually more than enough, but hey it's your life & your decision on how you go about finding the love of your life.
Marriage is sacred. It's a Holy bond between a husband, a wife & The Lord. Marriage is meant to be forever. It's a vow a couple takes that through life's ups & downs you will stick it out. In the bible it talks about adultery. Adultery can truly ruin a bond. If the bond is broken & it's headed for divorce pray harder than ever. Some marriages are salvageable with the The Lord being involved & couples therapy. If all else fails & the marriage ends in separation or divorce it can be devastating, especially if it isn't amicable.
Never stop praying. Pray for The Lord's will. He knows what's best & He knows what the future holds. God's timing is always the best timing. It's a reason for everything that He does, how He handles things & the speed that He moves at. You prayed & He listened. He's still listening. God said don't be anxious for nothing. Maybe you rushed into the marriage but you both weren't ready due to a lack of maturity. Being unequally yoked. Wait on God. Patience is of a virtue. They say what is meant will always find its way back.
Coping with a breakup.
If you feel betrayed because the other person cheated, it that may make you feel heartbroken. And, If the breakup was totally unexpected & it wasn't amicable you may feel hurt. Either way it can cause anger. Please do not try to harm yourself or the other person. Violence is never the answer. You're a gem don't take it personal. You're pretty extraordinary & you are more than enough. Sometimes people grow apart. And breaking up is very necessary when your relationship is unhealthy & especially when there's domestic violence involved.
What's next?
I know it may feel like you're at a standstill & you may feel like you want to give up. But please don’t stop living. I know it’s easier said than done, but you have to move on with your life. Keep moving forward being the very best that you can be. It will all begin to come together. Just try to relax & stay positive. Please remember that time is very valuable & you can never get it back. So please try to keep doing what you were doing before moving forward towards your goals.
Again, keep yourself busy & do positive spirit lifting things. Change is good. Change your hair &/or change your wardrobe. You can change up your environment by re-decorating. Go on a girl's on/guy's trip. Spend time with your friends or family in & out of town. Please be careful this a very vulnerable time so please do not let your guard down and put yourself at harm by meeting up with strangers. Be vigilant & be safe.
©2024 All rights are reserved by Shundreka Kajuana Fuller @The Pretty Brand | 2011 - 2024
Live your life to the fullest...