Domestic Violence

This page was made purely to bring awareness & peaceful resolutions to the abusers or victims of DV. A lot of people have friends & family that they love that are abusers or victims of domestic violence/abuse. And they do not want to give up on them, they're truly praying & looking for helpful interventions for the abusers or the victims. Also, maybe at one point & time in your life you may have been violent or abusive out of frustration or because of anger. And sometimes abuse becomes a learned behavior or tolerance. Especially, when you were/are a child, teenager, etc... And now you’ve carried it on into adulthood. Whether you are the abuser or you are the victim. Please know that it is not right whatsoever. And just because you grew up watching someone else abuse someone doesn’t make it right for you to repeat it. How did it make you feel being abused? So please STOP THE ABUSE/VIOLENCE. You be a generational curse breaker. You be the change. Your family &friends are watching you. Kids are like sponges. Please set better examples. Again, violence/abuse is never the answer. And when you know better you are supposed to do better. 

And for the record domestic abuse/violence isn't only between a man & a woman. A child can be abusive towards their parents (mother, father, grandparents, etc.…) as well. And actually, it can be even more detrimental especially when it’s your child. So family violence is another common type of violence as well. It also includes an uncle/auntie towards a niece/nephew. Domestic abuse includes anyone that you have a close relationship with domestically. I know it may be hard to comprehend, to talk about & to speak up because of fear. And one of the main reasons is because the abusers try to silence their victims with manipulation &/or treats. Please know that you deserve to feel safe, have happiness & peace. 

There are so many different interventions. And every situation is different. Sometimes, counseling makes the situation even worse. Especially if the other person is being abusive because they're taking their anger & frustrations out on you.  AND ALOT OF TIMES, people take their frustrations out on the closet person to them because they feel like you want to speak or do something about it. It's like you being their punching bag per say. And doctors suggest that counseling/therapy can trigger their anger even more. by bring the memories back up, Also, an intervention can make the other person resentful towards you if you hold them accountable regardless of the reason why they're doing it. In situations like this they can become more violent, so please don't try to become too afraid to speak up &/ or to walk away. Because you're better safe than sorry. Regardless of what they may have learned or how angry they may feel, they need to be held accountable.

If the aggressor has a psychological condition, please speak to psychologist to explain the situation. And tell them if the other person has any known cognitive conditions (adhd, autism, etc.) or any mental conditions, that way they can give you all of the best available safe intervention options. They can give you resources & knowledgeable ways to handle the other person. Some people have become accustomed to abusive/violent behaviors. Whether or not you're the victim or the abuser. Regardless,  we’re supposed to live a violence/abuse free peaceful life. And violence is NEVER okay. And you &/or your family deserve a safe & happy place to call home. And love isn’t supposed to hurt, love is patient, gentle & kind.